Menopause & Sex: How to Keep the Sexy Alive When Hormones Get Moody

One day you’re tearing the sheets apart like a wild animal, and the next… your libido’s gone MIA, your body’s doing weird shit, and you catch yourself thinking, “Is this it now?” Nah, that’s just menopause throwing some hormonal curveballs at your sex life. But let’s get one thing straight – just because your estrogen decided to ghost you doesn’t mean your sex life has to pack up and leave too. Menopause might be a beast, but it ain’t the boss. You’re still in the driver’s seat, even if the road’s got new twists.

The issue isn’t that desire disappears – it shifts, slips into the backseat, hides under anxiety, stress, dry spells, and body changes. But guess what? You’re not broken. You’re evolving. And yeah, things might not feel the same, but that doesn’t mean they’re over – it means it’s time to adjust the game plan and start playing to your strengths. Liberation, connection, hotter-than-ever intimacy – they’re all still on the table, no matter what the scale or mirror says. So if “meh” has replaced “more, please,” stick around. You’re gonna want to hear this, and your future self in the bedroom will absolutely thank you.

Why does menopause mess with sex?

The short, honest answer? Hormones are traitorous little shits sometimes. But there’s a whole cast of culprits messing with your bedroom rhythm. Let’s break ’em down.

Estrogen drops, and things change

Your body’s estrogen levels take a major nosedive during menopause – and that change triggers a whole chain reaction:

• Dryness: Less estrogen means less natural lubrication. And friction without lube? Yeah, that’s a recipe for “no thanks” not “yes please.”
• Thinner vaginal walls: It’s called vaginal atrophy. Sexy name, huh? Not really. But it just means the tissues get more fragile – again, comfort takes a hit.
• Libido might shift: Desire can feel different. Or it gets cloudy under all the other stuff happening. Doesn’t mean it’s gone forever – just means you need an updated roadmap.

Now, if you’re thinking “Damn, that sounds like my sex life is going straight to hell,” stop right there. These changes are real, yes – but they are absolutely manageable with the right tools (and I’m not just talking vibrators… yet).

Brain & body: Mental changes hit too

Menopause doesn’t just hit your junk – it messes with your mind in sneaky ways too. Let’s get real:

• Stress skyrockets: Job, aging parents, adult kids, body changes… your mental load gets heavier than a pair of pre-Netflix DVD box sets.
• Anxiety crashes the party: Hormonal swings can feel like emotional whiplash. One minute: calm. Next minute: murder mode because someone finished the ice cream.
• Sleep becomes mythical: Night sweats + wonky hormones = insomnia. And sleepy people don’t usually scream “take me now” unless they’re dreaming it.

All of this can kill your mood faster than a bad pickup line. The best part? You’re not losing your mind. You’re going through a hormonal transformation – like a sexual transformer, just mid-morph.

Relationship friction and self-esteem issues

This part gets real heavy – because let’s face it. Feeling different in your body can make you question your desirability. And that internal monologue? It talks loud in the bedroom. Loud enough to shut things down.

If you’ve caught yourself thinking any of these:

• “I don’t feel sexy anymore.”
• “My partner probably misses how things used to be.”
• “I’m scared to bring this up because it feels awkward.”

Then congrats – you’re normal. But also: screw those thoughts (and I mean that in every sense).

It’s not about getting your 25-year-old body back – it’s about understanding your 50-ish self, and realizing that confidence doesn’t age out. In fact, experience + communication = god-tier sex potential, if you ask me. And trust me… I’ve asked myself more times than I care to admit.

So what’s going on with your sex drive, really? Is it gone forever or just hiding behind a hot flash? Stick around, because next, we’re diving into the wild world of libido swings – and how to ride them like a bedroom boss.

Curious how to tell if your sex drive’s out of sync or just evolving? I’ve got the signs, stories, and straight-up answers coming your way in Part 2.

What’s up with the sex drive? Understanding libido swings

Why libido might drop (and when it doesn’t)

Let’s get one thing straight – menopause doesn’t pull the plug on your sex drive, it just rewires the circuit. For some people, desire flatlines for a while. For others, it builds into a whole new kind of heat. Think: less people-pleasing, more I know what I like, give it to me energy.

Estrogen and testosterone take a nosedive during menopause. That matters because those are your “let’s get it on” hormones. With less of them floating around, arousal doesn’t spark as easily. But that’s not all – hormonal changes affect the brain too. Your brain needs to join the party for desire to even show up.

But here’s a juicy twist: for some people, the pressure’s finally OFF after menopause. No more birth control worries, no more periods, and often, way less body shame. And that freedom? It can seriously awaken the inner freak. One woman told me she started feeling hornier at 55 than she ever did at 25 – and honestly, that’s hot as hell.

Factors that affect it: Sleep, medication, emotions

Low libido isn’t just about hormones. Life messes with your drive too. Here are a few culprits worth knowing:

• Shitty sleep: If you’re up all night with night sweats, you’ll be way more into naps than nooky. Poor sleep wrecks mood, energy, and hormones.
• SSRI meds: Antidepressants (especially SSRIs) are notorious for putting libido on mute. If your meds are killing the mood, there’s zero shame in talking to your doc about options – and yes, there are alternatives that mess less with your mojo.
• Stress & self-esteem: Feeling invisible, tired, or like your body betrayed you? That stuff sticks. Add career burnout, caregiving jobs, or partner tension – it’s no wonder your sex drive feels like it’s on strike.

Here’s a thought: Maybe it’s not that you don’t want to have sex… maybe you’re just damn tired and not being touched the way you need.

“Desire is not a constant state. It’s responsive – to how you’re treated, how you feel about yourself, and how safe your body feels.” – Esther Perel

Tracking your natural patterns

This one’s for the curious and the brave – start tuning into when you actually want sex. No judgment, no expectations. Just observe it like you’re checking the weather.

• Do you feel more interested in sex in the mornings? Or after a workout?
• Does an ounce of emotional connection fuel your horniness more than physical stuff?
• Is there that one day a month when you randomly want to hump anything that moves?

Some people find their libido’s still cyclical post-menopause – just less obvious. Others notice new triggers, like the right kind of touch, a juicy fantasy, or that hot-as-hell clip I know you bookmarked.

Use a journal, an app, or just jot notes in your phone. Start making connections. Is it meds? Mood? Men? Or just mental exhaustion? Once you know what turns you OFF, it’s a hell of a lot easier to start finding what turns you ON again.

Still feel like you’re playing guesswork with what feels good now? You’re not alone – and you just might need to hear about some game-changing lubes and comfort tools that can bring the “hell yes” back to your bedroom. Curious?

Comfort matters: How to make sex feel good again

Let’s get one thing real clear: sex shouldn’t feel like a chore, a disappointment, or a trip to a dry desert with no water in sight. Post-menopause sex can feel different, sure – but not in a “rip the sheets with frustration” kind of way. I’m talking about turning discomfort into desire. Yeah, that kind of plot twist.

Here’s the deal – your body might be switching up the rules, but that doesn’t mean you can’t rewrite the playbook. You deserve pleasure that feels easy, natural, and damn satisfying. So let’s break down the stuff that helps you do exactly that.

Lube – your best friend now

You’re not broken. You’re just drier – and that’s literally all about estrogen stepping off the stage. Time to bring in a well-lubed understudy.

Now, don’t just grab the first gooey bottle you see at the drugstore and hope for the best. All lubes are not created equal, and choosing the right one is a total game changer:

• Water-based: Classic, easy to clean, and safe with condoms and toys. But dries out faster, so keep it nearby for round two – or two minutes in.
• Silicone-based: Super slick and stays that way. Great for marathon sessions or shower fun. Just don’t use it with silicone toys (unless you want a melting disaster).
• Oil-based: Coconut oil is a sexy fave. Feels natural, smells amazing, and glides like a dream. Not safe with latex though – so skip the condom if you go this route.

If sex hurts or feels like sandpaper playing a fiddle on your lady parts, the right lube can be the difference between “Nope” and “Holy hell, yes.”

“Pleasure isn’t gone – it just needs a little help getting back to the party.”

Vaginal moisturizers, estrogen creams & other legit solutions

Lube handles the moment. Moisturizers handle the whole week. If you’ve never tried one, now’s the time.

Regular vaginal moisturizers (yup, they exist) work to restore the softness and elasticity down there, making sex feel way less like a pap smear and way more like a mood. Look for products with hyaluronic acid or vitamin E – both help keep tissues supple without weird ingredients.

And when basic lube and moisture just aren’t cutting it? Estrogen creams or rings might save your sex life. These mini hormone boosts (delivered directly where they’re needed) can:

• Rebuild vaginal tissue
• Bring back natural lubrication
• Reduce micro-tearing & pain during sex

Talk to your doctor (awkward is temporary, painful sex doesn’t have to be). Studies show that vaginal estrogen can improve overall sexual satisfaction and reduce chronic discomfort – not to mention, boost confidence between the sheets. Yeah, science gets horny too.

Sexy positions that go easy on the body

This ain’t the time to go full Olympic gymnast mid-thrust – unless you’re really into that, in which case, bravo. But if joints are creaky, hips are tight, or you’ve got that “meh” energy that makes you skip the bedroom altogether, it’s time to prioritize comfort and clever angles.

• Spooning: Easy on the knees, deep in that intimate connection, and you don’t even have to rotate your hips. A+ for closeness and lazy sex Sunday mornings.
• Edge of the bed: You lie back near the edge while your partner stands or kneels. No pressure on your back, great for deeper connection without acrobatics.
• Cowgirl variation (you on top): You control the pace, depth, and rhythm – plus, more clit stimulation with a rocking motion instead of bouncing.

If you’re brave, grab a wedge pillow. No shame. They’re hot in all the right ways and help lift your hips into prime pleasure position. It’s called smart sex, my friend.

Bottom line: orgasm trails don’t have to be paved with discomfort. A few switches, a splash (or gallon) of lube, and the right moves can turn things around way faster than you’d think.

“If it hurts, that’s your body waving a big red flag. Don’t push through. Pause, fix it, and then get back to the action, better than ever.”

But hey… what if the spark isn’t just physical? What if what’s really missing is that electricity – that seductive tension that used to come from just a kiss? You think your partner still sees you as hot? Think you’ve changed too much?

Well, stick around. Up next, we’re getting into the wild world of emotional intimacy – and why, with the right mix of connection, confidence, and just a whisper of teasing, it’s still very much on the menu.

Emotional intimacy: Still hot, just a different kind of sexy

You know what’s underrated but stupidly powerful? That skin-on-skin connection that doesn’t even need a climax to feel satisfying. Menopause throws a few curveballs, sure – but it also opens the door to a version of intimacy that’s deeper, slower, and honestly? Just as toe-curling.

“You don’t stop having sex when you get older. You stop having basic sex. You evolve into something raw and profound.”

Communication upgrades for the bedroom

If you want magic in the sheets, stop whispering vague hints and start talking like you mean it. This is the age where you literally have nothing to lose and way too much to gain. One real convo can be hotter than a week of silence-filled sex.

• Say what’s NEWLY turning you on – Your body changes. So does your pleasure map. If something doesn’t work like it used to, say it. If toe-sucking suddenly makes your eyes roll back, yeah, tell ’em that too.
• Ask questions mid-sex – “Do you like that?” isn’t just porn talk. It’s connection. Ask. Listen. Adjust.
• Talk after sex – Post-orgasm honesty is real. That “pillow talk” moment? That’s where the upgrades happen.

Studies even back this up: couples who talk openly about their sexual needs report higher satisfaction – especially post-50. It’s not rocket science; it’s real talk equals real orgasms.

New ways to connect that aren’t all about sex

Here’s the truth they never told you when you were younger: foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom – it starts three hours before. Hell, sometimes three days before. If you’re not feeling seen or desired on a random Tuesday, your naked Saturday doesn’t stand a chance.

Try this arsenal of slow-burn intimacy:

• Massage before bed – Not a rushed one. Light touch. Back of the neck. Behind the knees. No pressure, just presence. You’d be amazed what that unlocks.
• Silent cuddle sessions – 20 minutes. No phones. No agenda. Just spoon, breathe together, maybe kiss if it happens. Energy sync is real.
• Eye contact – Sounds goofy? Sure. But sustained eye contact (like 3 minutes, unbroken) reboots intimacy like nothing else. It hits harder than any sex position in the Kama Sutra. Even therapists use it to reignite long-term connections.

Start slow. Add layers. Suddenly, brushing past each other at the sink feels electric again.

Feeling desirable again: Yes, you are

This one hits deep. It’s not about “bouncing back” or trying to be who you were at 30. Forget that noise. It’s about realness over performance. You’ve been through life. That’s sexy. You survived, evolved, maybe even got some battle scars. Don’t forget – people crave authenticity more than perfection.

Here’s how to step back into your power:

• Reclaim your damn mirror – Instead of scanning for flaws, admire the parts your partner loves. That curve, that warmth, that softness? It’s fire.
• Add intentional seduction – Not about lingerie (though hey, if you want it, wear it). It’s how you touch, how you look at them over dinner, how you own your own presence when you walk across the room.
• Stop apologizing for your body – Want a turn-off? It’s saying “Sorry I don’t look the same.” Want a turn-on? “Come taste this ass exactly how it is.” That… that changes the game.

If you’re not feeling it in the mirror yet, try moving your body in ways that make you feel good – not for calories, but for confidence. Dance. Walk naked in your room. Light a candle and touch your skin slowly, just because you can.

Menopause doesn’t take desire away – it just asks if you’re ready to find it deeper, without the old scripts.

And trust me, once you unlock that mindset… you’ll want more. So let me ask you this – what if the best parts of your sex life are still in front of you? You curious yet?

Wait ’til you see what I’ve got lined up next: let’s talk about some spicy hacks & sneaky routines that will have you breaking headboard brackets again after 50.

Hacks & routines to keep things interesting post-menopause

If your sex life feels like it’s stuck on repeat – like you’re cycling through the same moves with all the enthusiasm of folding laundry – it’s time to press the reset button. Good sex after menopause isn’t about recreating your 20s; it’s about owning your now. You’re not just older… you’re bolder, smarter, and way too hot to settle for “meh.” Let me show you how to keep things juicy.

Planned sex – not unsexy, just smart

Some people hear “scheduled sex” and imagine a calendar with a sad face drawn on Wednesday night. Nope. That’s not what this is. This is you taking control and turning foreplay into forethought.

• Anticipation builds arousal: When you know something’s going down tonight, your body and brain both get ready. Eroticism isn’t spontaneous – it grows in that mental slow-cook.
• Date nights with an edge: Go out. Dress up. Flirt. Watch something racy together (shameless plug: I’ve got options). Let it simmer until you’re both giving each other that look like it’s about to get steamy when you get back home.
• Routines become rituals: Same day, same time – turns out, that can be hot. When both of you know Wednesdays are your get-naked-and-connect days, you look forward to it more than a weekend getaway.

Toys, fantasy, kink – explore or reintroduce

You made it through puberty, marriage, parenting, divorce, work, and god knows what else. You’ve earned the right to want more from your orgasms. Now’s the best time to explore the corners of the pleasure map you never dared to touch.

• Try toys without shame: A high-quality vibrator can be better than a cocktail and less messy than therapy. From suction vibes to wand massagers, there’s a whole world to try. Start slow. Read reviews. And don’t forget to warm up with lube (yes, every time).
• Fantasy play isn’t just cosplay: Ever wanted to dominate? Submit? Be tied up or blindfolded? Shared a secret with your partner ten years ago and it fell flat? Try again. You’ve probably both changed. And guess what – sexual curiosity is eternal.
• Kink light: A little spanking here, a silk scarf there – it doesn’t have to be a Fifty Shades scene. Sometimes all it takes is permission to not be “nice” in bed.

According to a 2022 study by the North American Menopause Society, nearly 60% of women post-menopause reported improved satisfaction after bringing sex toys into the bedroom. Yes, you read that right – not starting to use them, but after they did. Kinda makes you wonder what you’ve been missing, huh?

Foreplay like you mean it

If sex was a movie, foreplay is the opening scene – and most of us have been skipping it like a “Skip Intro” button on Netflix. Bad idea. Post-menopause, foreplay isn’t optional. It’s essential. And honestly? It’s way more fun when you take your time.

• Sensual over sexual: Start with massage oil, soft hands, and zero goal in mind. It gets you both present in your bodies – which is where desire lives, not in some fantasy of how it’s “supposed” to be.
• Feedback is sexy: Ask them, “Do you like this?” Say, “I love when you touch me there.” Communication isn’t just pillow talk. It’s a secret weapon for turning you both on faster – and deeper.
• Kiss like teenagers: Literally. Remember those long makeout sessions that left your lips sore and your jeans tighter? Reclaim that energy. One good kiss can relight a fire you thought was out.

“The best kind of intimacy isn’t always about nudity. Sometimes it’s about the actual act of being naked… with your emotions, your truth, and your desire to be touched deeply.”

Here’s the wild part – when you stop obsessing over “performance” and instead focus on connection, sex not only becomes more satisfying… it becomes more frequent too. It’s kind of like wine and orgasms – both age well with good storage and the right pairing.

But there’s still one more secret weapon left that most couples ignore… and it might just be hiding in your top drawer. Ever wonder what happens when you start exploring your own pleasure, solo? Stick with me…

The PornDude’s Tips from the Wild Side (Research + Real Talk)

Let’s get something straight – just because your hormones went full rollercoaster doesn’t mean your sex life has to tap out. In fact, this could be your golden era if you play it right. Here’s some real-deal advice from a man who’s seen it all, heard more, and never shies away from the juicy stuff.

Rebuilding confidence with your own touch

This isn’t about some candle-lit, self-love BS (unless that’s your thing – no judgment). It’s about knowing how your body’s changing and figuring out what still turns you on. The truth? Masturbation isn’t just for teenagers and lonely nights. It’s research. It’s recon. It’s you exploring solo so you know what to bring into your partnered play.

Try switching it up:

• Use a vibrator even if you never have. They’re not overwhelming – they’re efficient
• Try guided audio porn. (Dipsy is HOT and aimed at real adult stories, not unicorn nonsense)
• Explore different paces and spots. Post-menopause sensitivity shifts – you gotta retrain the touch.

According to a 2020 study in the journal Menopause, regular solo pleasure not only boosts vaginal elasticity and circulation, but improves post-sex mental relaxation. Yeah – you legit sleep better. Now tell me that’s not doctor-approved self-care.

Sharing adult content together for inspiration

“A couple that faps together, stays together.”

No, seriously. Watching porn isn’t cheating, disrespectful, or a last resort. It’s the menu before the main course – a chance to peek into fantasies without the awkward dinner convo that starts with “So babe… ever think about bondage?”

Don’t make it a big production. Just toss on something that turns you both on, sit close, and let the sparks follow.

• Choose content that features mature women – representation matters, and confidence is sexy. (Check out my top mature/older porn sites)
• Use it to steal moves. It’s not choreography, it’s inspiration.
• Laugh if it’s silly. That’s connection right there.

If you’re unsure where to start, I’ve got breakdowns, rankings, and no B.S. reviews at my main site. You’ll find something tasteful – or nasty, I don’t judge – that you’ll both vibe with.

Sex health essentials every couple should know

I’ve written a full play-by-play on the Top 10 Sex Health Tips Every Man and Woman Should Know, but here’s the sexy appetizer platter:

• Communicate the weird stuff – like if something suddenly hurts or you get zero wet for no reason. That’s not failure, that’s biology.
• Foreplay counts as sex. Anyone who says otherwise is a teenager with bad aim.
• Hydration and blood flow matter. Libido is tied to circulation – you want action down there? Drink water, move your body, and chill the hell out sometimes.

Look, even sex icons get dry patches (literally and figuratively). That’s not the end – it’s just alternate game mode. The more tuned in you are to sexual wellness, the better your odds of never having a “meh” session again.

But hey, this brings us to a sticky (okay, medically relevant) situation…

What if something feels off – and not in the fun way?

Buckle up, because in the next section we’re talking about doctors, clinics, and exactly how to bring up that “intimate dryness and pain” convo without dying of embarrassment. Spoiler: It’s easier than you think. Let’s talk solutions >>

Talking to your doctor without the awkwardness

Alright, let’s cut the crap – if your sex life feels off, painful, or like it’s stuck in a weird place post-menopause, you don’t have to just “deal with it.” That whole “this is just what happens when you get older” line? Absolute BS if it’s killing your joy in the bedroom.

The real fix might be one conversation away… and yeah, it starts in a place most people awkwardly avoid: the doctor’s office. But trust me, asking the right questions can unlock serious pleasure again. This isn’t about oversharing – it’s about reclaiming your comfort, your body, your orgasms.

What to ask your gynecologist or hormone specialist

Here’s where a lot of people mess up – they go in saying stuff like, “I don’t really feel like having sex anymore,” and hope the doctor just reads their mind. Nope. Wanna get better answers? Get specific. Say it clear:

• “Sex is uncomfortable – what can I do about dryness or pain?”
• “Is my hormone level where it should be for someone in menopause?”
• “Can we talk about vaginal laser therapy or topical estrogen?”

These aren’t taboo questions – these are literally the things they’re trained for. A 2019 study in the journal Menopause found that only 13% of women brought up sex-related concerns to their doctors first – most waited for the doc. So flip that stat. Speak up. Set the vibe.

Medication, therapy, and sexual wellness clinics

Here’s a juicy little secret: there are entire clinics that exist just to keep your sex life hot and healthy, no matter your age. From hormone-balancing meds to pelvic floor therapy to specialized counseling for couples? Yeah. That’s all out there.

• Low libido? You might benefit from low-dose testosterone therapy (yep, women can use this too – under medical guidance).
• Chronic dryness or pain? Local estrogen cream can do what lube alone can’t.
• Not “in the mood” mentally? Sex therapy can help reconnect the brain with desire without making it weird.

If you’ve never heard of these options before, you’re not alone – lots of regular clinics gloss over this stuff. But sexual wellness centers don’t.

Finding body-positive and sex-positive professionals

Let’s be real – not every doc is cool talking about orgasms or masturbation. So find one who is. You deserve a provider who won’t blink when you say, “I want sex to feel great again.”

Look for terms like:

• Sexual health certified
• Menopause specialist
• LGBTQ+ affirming or body-inclusive care

Don’t be afraid to screen ‘em before booking an appointment. Call and ask, “Does the doctor address post-menopause sexual concerns?” Simple as that. If the receptionist sounds confused or weird about it – that’s a red flag.

“Silence about sexuality during menopause isn’t shame – it’s opportunity that never stepped into the light.”

This phase of life isn’t about retreating from pleasure. It’s about reclaiming it louder. And sometimes one good conversation with the right expert is the start of a whole new sexual chapter.

So let me ask you something personal… What if the hottest, most confident, most real sex of your life happens now – not before? Stick around for what’s coming next, because what’s ahead is nothing short of permission to rewrite your entire script in the bedroom

Let’s Keep It Real: Menopause Isn’t the End of Sex – It’s a New Chapter

Give yourself permission to shift the script

Menopause doesn’t mean “Sex life: dead and buried.” Nope. It means your erotic menu just got a remix.

Here’s what I want you to remember: you’re not broken – you’re evolving. What turned you on before might not hit the same now, and that’s cool. New cravings, slower build-ups, softer sensations, kinkier thoughts? All fair game. There’s no expiration date on desire. You are not defined by dryness, hot flashes, or society’s BS idea of “aging gracefully.” Screw that. This is your time to redefine the rules.

So you don’t feel like swinging from the chandelier tonight? Maybe you’re more into deep connection, slow tease, or watching something steamy together. Awesome. It’s all sex. It’s all sexy. You just need to unlearn the crap you were told in your 30s and start tuning into what makes your body hum now.

 

Be open, be curious – and be playful again

Quick fact: orgasms don’t retire. They just reinvent themselves.

If you’re entering this phase thinking, “Well, this has to be boring and sad now,” snap out of it. I’ve heard from legends – yes, legends – who found the best sex of their lives after 50. Why? Because they stopped giving a damn about judgment, learned what they liked, and started treating sex like an adventure again. That’s the sweet spot right there. Openness + curiosity + a hit of attitude.

Here’s what that could look like:

• Trying erotic audiobooks instead of porn because that voice? Makes your spine tingle.
• Letting your partner give you a massage – fully nude – while you don’t try to control the outcome. Just enjoy.
• Laughing mid-sex because your leg cramped. Then getting back to it like the pros you are.

And let me tell you this – laughter during sex is hot. Passion doesn’t have to be serious. It’s raw. It’s messy. Sometimes it’s silly. And when you’re not stressing about performance, the orgasm sneaks up on you and knocks your soul right out of your body.

Final Thoughts from The PornDude

Look, I’ve been around the block. I’ve rated more porn sites than most people have had orgasms. And I’m telling you – the real magic happens when you stop trying to be who you were and start enjoying who you are right now.

Your sex life isn’t over. It’s transforming. Society may pretend menopause is some sort of dead-end street – but I’m here to say: it’s the f*cking scenic route. You get to explore what slow, deep, meaningful sex feels like. You get to toss out shame and walk into the bedroom like a damn goddess (or god) who knows what they want.

So keep experimenting. Communicate like a boss. Get yourself some high-quality lube. Reclaim solo sessions like you’re starring in your own adult film.

And if you need a little push – or just want to see what’s out there – I’ve got you, always. Check out my list of the best porn sites for inspiration, education, or just a damn good time.

Menopause is a chapter. It ain’t the ending. Flip the page and keep f*cking.